Dose of Donna
Did you ever have a love-hate relationship? It’s that relationship where you love someone yet can somehow hate them at the same time. I’m currently having one of these relationships and it’s with my conscience.
My conscious is great as it guides the Dose to better behavior. It helps me stay on the straight and narrow, so to speak. I like that. Being a person who is risk averse, my conscience ensures a reduction in self-induced troubles.
In the same vein, my conscience taps me on my shoulder at times the Dose gets a bit snarly or testy with others. These are the times I hate my conscience. “Leave me alone. Don’t you know I’m only human?” is my plea.
But my conscience loves me… no hate in sight. It’s my conscience that gets the Dose corrected along the way in the path of life. You see, getting snarly and testy needs to be addressed regardless of my own nature. The Dose wants to be reminded to apologize to others when appropriate. I need correction… if honest, we all do.
Do you hear your conscience? Remember, it only whispers words of love. Listen up!
Home alone. Alone time. Being alone. What the introverts love, the extroverts dread.
As a typical extrovert, the Dose gets energized in the presence of others. Just one other person is sufficient for me. So the thought of being home alone, having alone time, or staying alone for long periods can be quite distressing.
I was once told that I “do” aloneness well. And this is true. The Dose has conquered the challenge of having more alone time than my heart’s desire. And now, quite frankly, the Dose sees the benefits of overcoming such a challenge…
Whether chosen or by default, my time alone has groomed my well-being. For the most part, this uninterrupted time has allowed me to find, develop, and strengthen myself. Basically, a metamorphosis occurred where I became good company for this party of one – me!
Whether an introvert or extrovert, being with others is a healthy part of life. And being good company for others starts with being good company for one’s own self.
Be the company others desire… including yourself!
The “theys” have much to say. They say that two wrongs don’t make a right.
They also say, “Don’t get mad, get even.”
Interesting how the theys are on both sides of the fence when it comes to how to behave when someone does you wrong.
I grew up in the “two wrongs don’t make a right” camp.
If the Dose heard it once, I heard it a million times during my formative years. And so, as an adult, I struggle when I hear of people returning the same bad behavior to the giver. Wouldn’t that make them like them?
As for the “don’t get mad, get even” deal… between the planning and the executing it’s all too exhausting and anxious-ridden as one awaits the receiver’s need to return the “favor.”
Let’s face it: with this “get even” mindset, bad perpetuates bad. It only leads to a vicious cycle of madness.
Two wrongs makes one big, fat wrong. A wrong and a right make the they that did wrong rethink to do right!