Dose of Donna
It’s a seemingly easy question as there are only two options to choose from.
Yes. No. Both words that are too easily used or not used enough.
Some people have difficulties refusing, rejecting, or just plain saying ‘no.’ They are the people pleasers. Never wanting to disappoint means never saying ‘no.’
For those in this camp… let’s talk. When you say ‘yes’ to all requests, you are ultimately saying ‘no’ to something else.
And the Dose knows that you people pleasers really can say ‘no’ … as you would say ‘no’ to committing criminal acts or leading your children astray. I hope.
For those who say ‘no’ to most every request and/or opportunity, I say this: You are missing out on some good stuff along the road. When I think back to some of my regrets in life, they are because the Dose said ‘no’ without thought to opportunities that stood right in front of me.
Regardless of your answer – ensure your yes is yes and your no is no… full stop!
Choose your answer wisely.
This post is dedicated to a dear friend in Heidelberg, Germany.
Oh the irony of money… we worry whether having too little or too much and–don’t kid yourself–when loved it is the root of all evil.
I do find it interesting that money is a frequent point of conversation. The form of such conversation is more indirect–what was given to people as a gift, what they bought, or what they are about to purchase.
Frequently the proverbial price tag is slipped into the discussion to ensure that their “richness” is conveyed. Money appears to be a security blanket, a right-of-brag, and a source of power.
But with the flip of a coin, money can disappear like the clouds or a bolt of lightning.
And so knowing that… how much weight should money really carry?
For the Dose, money has relative value. Money is a necessity to live, as there’s no free room and board. But it’s not the “be-all, end-all.”
Like people, it comes with virtual baggage and the need to be watched over. When we have less than needed (or should I say wanted?), money becomes our problem child – a source of worry or cause for despair.
Money – not good to love it, no option to leave it. That said… it’s true value in life is up to you!
Did you ever have a love-hate relationship? It’s that relationship where you love someone yet can somehow hate them at the same time. I’m currently having one of these relationships and it’s with my conscience.
My conscious is great as it guides the Dose to better behavior. It helps me stay on the straight and narrow, so to speak. I like that. Being a person who is risk averse, my conscience ensures a reduction in self-induced troubles.
In the same vein, my conscience taps me on my shoulder at times the Dose gets a bit snarly or testy with others. These are the times I hate my conscience. “Leave me alone. Don’t you know I’m only human?” is my plea.
But my conscience loves me… no hate in sight. It’s my conscience that gets the Dose corrected along the way in the path of life. You see, getting snarly and testy needs to be addressed regardless of my own nature. The Dose wants to be reminded to apologize to others when appropriate. I need correction… if honest, we all do.
Do you hear your conscience? Remember, it only whispers words of love. Listen up!