Dose of Donna
The stairway banister: designed to be helpful, not harmful. But it was. Part of that bacterium-laced banister took up residence as a splinter in the thumb of my friend… leading to hospitalization, surgery, leech therapy, and a new thumb. Yes, that is the power of an object under one’s skin!
People can be like splinters. You know the type. The ones who get “under our skin.” They have a way of intentionally irritating us. Intentionally annoying us. Their words or actions are like poison – out to infect our very souls by igniting negative emotions.
For the Dose, I find these human splinters not to be messed with. I’m either yanking them out of my life, practicing the fine art of deafening my ears to their nonsense, or simply walking away. Sound cold hearted? Mean? Not all so nice?
My friend ignored that banister splinter and ended up incapacitated for two months.
Like anything that gets under our skin – wood or metal – people who negatively affect us must be addressed immediately or else we too will fall prey to their venom!
This post is dedicated to John, who will never ever again underestimate a splinter lodged under his skin.
“The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing, and becomes nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow or love. Chained by his certitude, he is a slave; he has forfeited his freedom. Only the person who risks is truly free.” ― Leo Buscaglia
I choose to risk…it’s worth the risk. Care to join me?
It’s a seemingly easy question as there are only two options to choose from.
Yes. No. Both words that are too easily used or not used enough.
Some people have difficulties refusing, rejecting, or just plain saying ‘no.’ They are the people pleasers. Never wanting to disappoint means never saying ‘no.’
For those in this camp… let’s talk. When you say ‘yes’ to all requests, you are ultimately saying ‘no’ to something else.
And the Dose knows that you people pleasers really can say ‘no’ … as you would say ‘no’ to committing criminal acts or leading your children astray. I hope.
For those who say ‘no’ to most every request and/or opportunity, I say this: You are missing out on some good stuff along the road. When I think back to some of my regrets in life, they are because the Dose said ‘no’ without thought to opportunities that stood right in front of me.
Regardless of your answer – ensure your yes is yes and your no is no… full stop!
Choose your answer wisely.
This post is dedicated to a dear friend in Heidelberg, Germany.